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The wording on this was difficult. I sort of wanted to put "there are things I like in fiction, that disgust me in real life" but that's not quite true.

Some of them do. I'll admit that. However, some don't. Some I'm just not okay with.

I won't go into which ones disgust me IRL, but the one's I'm not 100% okay with are student/teacher relationships, or like, a 15 year old with a 35 year old.

I like forbidden romances, okay? I totally ship Snarry and Yassen/Alex. but IRL I'd have a problem with that. In fiction, we can ignore the problems with those types of relationships. Those issues can conveniently not be a problem. Oh, they are to others so it must be hush hush, but THIS relationship is totally not like that. Fiction can set things up so some obstacle that exists IRL can either be overcome or not exist in the work.

I get that some of this stuff can totally squick others. Some people can't think of it as a fantasy where certain things that aren't okay IRL can be. But you know what? That's okay. However don't hate on people who like that stuff. Just because they're okay with it in fiction/fantasy, doesn't mean it doesn't disgust them/horrify them/etc. IRL.
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Sakuraofchaos Featured By Owner Feb 3, 2017  Student Digital Artist
War is cool in fiction but not IRL.
Jeanette9a Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2017  Professional Traditional Artist
love this stamp <3 
RieSonomura Featured By Owner Edited Aug 1, 2016  Hobbyist Writer
I feel like this is something a lot of fandom communities need to learn, that liking problematic elements in fiction doesn't mean you're ok with it irl.

For example, I enjoy well written villain characters. It doesn't mean I condone their actions. I also like a couple ships where say one character is 14 and the other is 17; doesn't mean I think a real 14 year old should date a 17 year old.

While I'm on the topic of shipping, shipping doesn't always mean you wanna imagine the characters having sex, or that you're attracted to the characters in the ship (though there are some exceptions for me in those cases and it's always with ships where both people are of legal age). There's different ways to enjoy fiction.

And can I just say I really appreciate how you used the word "squick"? I feel the phrase "squicked" should make a comeback in fandom culture, as opposed to "triggered". Triggers refer to things that bring back very traumatic memories and the word shouldn't be used as lightly as it is.
Aq215 Featured By Owner May 20, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Personally, I love shota; but if I saw it in real life I would be the first to feel disgusted and angered. I know stuff like this gets bashed a lot so I also want to add that I hate violence in both fiction and reality (like really gruesome violence; mild is okay) but I wouldn't assume anyone who enjoyed it were real killers or enjoyed watching real people get murdered.

And not just immoral issues but there are types of fictional character i feel attracted to; Like psychopaths and submissive childlike crybabies. But if they were real would I want to be around them? Hell no, I would probably want to stay away from that person.
SpeakThroughFingers Featured By Owner May 21, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
*high five* Shota is my favorite thing to read, and I'd feel the exact same way if it was happening in real life. I also like some of those things that make people hate slash/yaoi because it's so unrealistic. Like one character maybe being an uber uke or something. I know that's not how it is in real life, and most partners take turns and stuff, but I really like one character to be very dominant and in control and the other to be submissive. *shrug*

I totally know what you mean about that. I always find myself attracted to "dangerous" characters. Like teenage!Voldemort, before he got all snake-facey, or assassins, or bad guys and what not. I think it's hot. But I know that in real life, a psychopath would not be fun to hang around with.
Aq215 Featured By Owner May 21, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Shota is probably bashed the most because people think it leads to child molestation, and i'm sick of the double standard that nobody bats an eye to heavy gore in fiction to innocent people, which can be just as bad. Though personally, the reason why I hate heavy violence in fiction and otherwise is because i'm hemophobic; not because I think it should be banned or is morally wrong. We all have the right to express ourselves in fiction :) I understand your preference in yaoi as well; that's a reason why shota is likeable for me because it's romanticized and it usually seems consensual, but I know it doesn't work that way in real life!!

In fiction I think psychopaths are so hot for some reason, but in real life they seem so scary. I know they aren't all violent, but even the non-violent ones scare me too because of their emotions being a total lie and it would kill me to know my friend/partner wasn't really genuinely that way. However, if I have a thing for a fictional one it's annoying for people to bash it because "If they were real they would hurt you"....the point is that they aren't real and I just want them as a fantasy!
Natsu714 Featured By Owner May 20, 2012
This is true. e-e

Some relationships or personalities or situations are okay in fiction, but I wouldn't like to see them in real life.

For example, I personally don't like people dating below the age of 17 or 18 (more or less depending on their mental age), but darn it I've always been a fan of NaruHina from Naruto, even when they were 12.

Also, for some reason I think it's fun when anime characters or something are full of themselves, and I sort of like that trait, but if I met someone who was full of themselves all the time and complimented themselves with how great they are... I don't really know if I'd like that very much. |D

Anyway, this is very nice. |3 I like this stamp idea. Nicely done.
Ragnasal Featured By Owner May 20, 2012
This stamp applies to almost all of my Ragnasal fictions.
BoKStamps Featured By Owner May 20, 2012
Ragnasal Featured By Owner May 20, 2012
I suggest not reading them unless you're into gratuitous violence and rape.
SpeakThroughFingers Featured By Owner May 20, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
That may or may not be some of the stuff I like in fiction but I'm not okay with IRL. *shiftyeyes*
Ragnasal Featured By Owner May 20, 2012

I'll just leave these here. Start from the bottom up if you're super bored.
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